Harmony is a blend of different colors that make up the character of the existence of the power of an object. The combination is what makes the color of whatever could fit into a series of beautiful and harmonious.Black, for example, if standing alone would create the impression of bleak and cold. Very few people liked the black color independently. But, if combined with white, will provide its own style that can eliminate the impression was bleak and cold.
The combination of black and white when laid out nicely, will give the impression of dynamic, passionate, and warm. Such was the household should be managed. Household is a blend of various colors of characters. There are characters of men, women, children, and even in-laws. And not a single person in this world who can guarantee that all the characters were completely perfect. There must be advantages and disadvantages.
Well, that's where harmony. Would not form a beautiful rhythm in the absence of harmony between the low and high tones. High-low tone was able to give birth to millions of beautiful songs.
In the household, all the advantages and disadvantages of each chime. Sometimes the husband a low-pitched, sometimes high-pitched wife. This is where a husband and wife are required to create harmony with the void-filling an existing void in between them. There are four things that must be considered to create harmony in the home tangga.keempatnya are:
1. Do not look back
Do not ever bring up the reasons as early marriage. "Why would I want to accept that time wrote, huh? Why did not I refuse? "Throw away this track mind.
The move will result in no change. Instead, it will bring disharmony that started from a trivial problem becomes complicated and tangled. If a sense of regret to go on, it is also possible disharmony lead to divorce. Therefore, face the reality that we face today. This is our problem. Do not run away from problems with melongkok back. Or, na'udzubillah, imagine another figure outside of our partners. This will open the door to increasingly vicious poison our minds.
2. Thinking objectively
Sometimes, the conflict could drag other things that really are not involved. This occurs because emotional conflicts to be addressed by. Moreover, already involves a third party who knows the internal problem is not the whole household.
So, try to localization problems in the fence. Be great if the mapping is done with the cooperation issues both parties to the dispute. Of course there will be a core problem that needs to be addressed. For example, the problem is less income than the husband. Do not drag the issue to be addressed so that the other emotional. For example, a husband who is not seeking money or incompetent husband was accused of being lazy. If this happens, the reverse reaction occurs. Husband will shout that the wife nagging, materialistic, and less understanding.
And to be objective, the problem of lack of income can be handled with the cooperation of all parties in the household. There is a possibility, too, earning wives, even self-reliance as well as train the children.
3. See advantages partner, not otherwise
To foster a sense of optimism, look at the advantages of our partners. Do not vice versa, to bring up the deficiencies they have. Imagination of an object, depending on how we put the point of view.
May be materially and physically, our partners have many shortcomings. It was hard to find the excess. But, this is where the unique marriage. How can a husband and wife who love each other can not have more than one child.
Mean, there are one or two advantages that we hide from our spouses. At the very least, he's sincere intentions in assisting us because God has a matchless advantages. Excellent value in the sight of Allah. Well, that's where we look. Over time, any shortcomings of our partners that are equipped with the advantages we have. Instead of dropping or weakening the spirit of change.
4. Include sakralitas menage
One of the most important foundation of marriage is a willing obedience to sharia because existence of God. In fact, if according to the calculations of matter, marriage was exhausting. That's the reward that God has promised value. When the issue barely see the end of the base, restore it to the owner of the problem, Allah swt. Pair your good sense would have thought to God Almighty. Look at the wisdom behind the problem. Insha Allah, there is the good of all the problems we face.
Do ubudiyah approach. Do not get bored with prayer. It may be that, with God taqarrub, severe problems can be seen light. And automatically, the solution will be visible in plain sight.
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